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Ladies, its okay, he played you.

From teens to adults all us can admit to being, had, hoodwinked, led astray by a man once in our lives right!?! Sometimes its something as subtle as giving your number to a guy you met at the club, waiting by the phone for him to call you and he didn't. Ever. It could also be as bad as dating a guy, feeling him, and finding out he lied about having kids, or is married. Lastly my personal favorite; sleeping with a man for months and you finally get the nerve to ask his intentions, and he says something dumb like,"Yeah, I'm working on myself right now, I'm not ready for a relationship."  Some of us are reading this right now and thinking about our exact scenarios in which we've experienced these instances. (Replaying the incident in your head and mumbling his name in contempt.) Go ahead, take a second, say his name out loud, so we can heal together.... Now that we got that out the way, I have a question. Did you allow these men to sour your feelings about m

Two years in, A lifetime out

Penned By Trinity Two years in, a lifetime out. About 3 years ago, a "Situationship" I had been in for 2 years ended in a whirlwind, just as quickly as it had started, and with LOTS of unanswered questions. I was deeply in love with a man I knew everything about, except for the fact that he had a girlfriend. Therefore making me the ignorant side chick. A position in life I had never set out to hold. When you live your life just going with the flow you find yourself in the middle of a shit storm with no umbrella. Initially, when I first met "He", there was something so common about him, something about him so incessantly ordinary that made him seem..different. Special almost. However, on the inside my intuition screamed, "S.T.U.P.I.D!!! DON'T DO IT! HE'S STUPID." I took that to mean we were soulmates and this was the man for me honey! My inner self, who I refer to as Trinity (me, myself, and I) shook her head as I closed my eyes and ears to all of

The Black Freak

Recently Nicki Minaj received a wax statue at Madame Toussads wax museum in Las Vegas. Although this is a huge honor, there have been recent reports stating that her statue requires extra security surrounding it. Spectators at the museum have been flashing photos of her likeness in very indecent poses.  Why? Well, because she's on all fours and half naked. Now, I've never been to this place but I went on the website, and viewed a few statues, the only other one half naked, but standing is..RIHANNA. Nicki Minaj in my opinion has willingly fashioned her persona into a modern day Sarah Bartmaan . For those of you unfamiliar, she is best known as the Venus Hottentot, and in life she was an African Woman turned Dutch, turned French tourist attraction, turned science experiment. This is real, look it up if you don’t believe me. Anyway, I say this about Onika because, like Sarah, when there was a rescue attempt to save her, she said (according to history),

The Mary Jane Syndrome

The Mary Jane Syndrome By Kesia King Being labeled a "strong black woman" used to be a badge of honor.  A "strong black woman" takes on every battle life throws her way, while smiling with all thirty-two teeth, wearing 6 inch heels, a brief case on her shoulder, a baby bottle in her right hand a spatula in her left while on the phone listening to someone else's problems, when deep down she knows that she's actually the one that needs to be laying on somebody's couch, airing it all out! It's funny because a couple weeks ago when I threw this particular outfit on, I was dealing with some internal struggles myself.  Now, add in my homemade, bone straight wig, red shoes and matching red clutch, when I looked in the mirror I immediately felt like Mary Jane Paul, from Being Mary Jane!  I can relate to Mary Jane, because on the outside, she always looks like she has it together. If you've watched the show on BET, you know when she walks into a roo

Does Your Life Matter?

By Jamika B.  In my honest opinion the #BlackLivesMatter movement is reflected around fear and death. I support the heart behind the movement and will continue to be a voice for the youth and our black melanated people. However as a poet, I am an observer by nature and feel it's my civic duty to speak the truth. Let me post my disclaimer now before I go any further with my observations.  Disclaimer: WARNING! Jamika B. is known to speak her truths. That being said, her truths may not be your truths. Do not take anything she says personally. Please be reminded anything she says (no matter the passion behind her words) is all in love for the empowerment of black melanated people. Her views are far and wide. Crossing topics such as religion, spirituality, education, fashion, politics, world issues, black empowerment and more. Jamika B. is very passionate about her views and maybe against the norm. However, she speaks from the heart and means no disrespect. Be prepared to have

Why Donald Trump Continues to Win

Trump, The Village Idiot By Laura Miller All of the sane people in the world are scratching their heads trying to figure out why Donald Trump is ahead of all of the other Republican Presidential candidates in the polls. Here is the thing my good people, you all know you have an associate/friend, that's probably well off, that has a considerable amount of social disorders, AND diarrhea of the mouth? When they're out with you they're always good for a laugh, and they PAY FOR EVERYTHING.  Yes, this is Donald Trump. Captain Delusion, Senor Jerkface (Notice the Spanish there..) The guy you love to hate, but for Republicans, this seems to be the guy they want. Why? Because he's not a liar, he is a straight shooter and he's a millionaire (maybe billion, who cares). So of course this should be enough to run a country right? He doesn't believe in Planned Parenthood; he calls it an "abortion factory" , he wants to build a "giant" wall to stop ille

What's Love Got To Do With It?!

What's Love Got To Do With It?  By Rapmusiq When a guy says he loves you, he does not in fact LOVE you.  Well, let me rephrase that. He does not love you in the grand, impassioned, fairy tale princess way that you are envisioning in your mind.  It does not mean he will climb any mountain, cross any sea or slay a dragon for you. It doesn’t mean that he will tell you the truth, be there when you need him most or not have sex with another woman.  It simply means that he recognizes something special, unique and beautiful in your spirit that he aspires to be a part of for some undetermined amount of time, to some undetermined degree.              This can be extremely confusing, because up until this point when a guy (boy or man) says he loves you for the first time, the type of love you’ve been most familiar with is the love of your parents (hopefully).  This of course is assuming that you have had a healthy, functional and nurturing relationship with your parents. This does

Ready, Set, Get Fit!

4 Easy Ways tо Gеt Started оn а Fitness Program Neecy Roney Getting Started I bеlіеvе gеttіng started іs thе hardest thing tо dо, whеn dealing wіth anything...but ESPECIALLY whеn dealing wіth exercise аnd starting аn exercise routine оr program. Іn mу experience аs а Fitness Expert І hаvе соmе асrоss mаnу questions whеn sitting асrоss frоm clients аnd potential clients. Тhеsе mау sound familiar, whеrе dо І start? І'vе failed sо mаnу times, hоw mаnу days dо І rеаllу nееd tо workout tо gеt tо mу goal? Dо І rеаllу hаvе tо change mу eating habits? Whаt аm І suppose tо eat? І dоn't wаnt tо starve mуsеlf! Саn уоu gіvе mе а quick fіх? І knоw whаt tо dо, іts јust I'm confused оn whеrе аnd hоw tо start. І соuld write а book оf questions but І wаnt tо gіvе уоu answers tо sоmе оf thеsе questions. Νоt оnlу dо І wаnt tо gіvе уоu thе answers, but І wаnt tо gіvе уоu thе tools thаt allow уоu tо apply thе information. So bасk tо thе topic аt hand...getting уоu started!! I

Can We Be Your Sistas?

My mom  has a best friend, that she has had my whole life and most of hers (I think the count is, over 50 years now). Every week, they share their stories with each other either on the phone or in person. They can talk on the phone every day, and yet, each time, it would seem like, they hadn't spoken in years. You could even feel the love in their voice messages, "Hey Ging, it's me G!", or " Hey Sista Gurl, it's me!" The love that they share for each other runs DEEP. They're soul mates. They're Sistas. The kind that are not blood related, the type of sister that is chosen. They lean on each other when times are rough, they celebrate in each others joy, it is the most perfect love. Studies have proven that women live longer, and one of those reasons is because we allow ourselves the opportunity to vent, and share our frustrations to our friends. By doing so, the slums of every day life don't kill us (Look it up, it's a fact)! Some o