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Have you ever sat down in adult hood and had a conversation with the childlike version of yourself? I am nearly certain that when you do, you will notice that the expectations the 7 year old version of yourself had, and the reality that you live in now.. does not REMOTELY sync. Albert Einstein said, "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one". As we get older our ability to dream is deffered by the apex of our reality. We see things a lot differently at 35, then we did at 25, then we did at 19, then we did at 12. Why is that? I believe the older we become, the more aware of "reality" we become. So when time begins to pass us, and things continue not to work in our favor, we start to do things to heighten our fear, and suppress our real desires. I must also mention that fear as an adult is masked in a couple of different things. STABILITY. SECURITY. SETTLING. COMFORTABLE. LAZINESS. Those are fear based tactics. Once you're of a certain

Are you the person in the relationship who always bends and never wins the argument? Does  your partner always find a way to make a point that shuts you down? Would you like to WIN an argument for a change? I can help. BUT I WILL NOT. Not because you are not one of my favorite people, it’s just the opposite. It’s because I care. In relationships, there is no such thing as a won argument. Anytime communication reaches a point to where dialogue has transitioned to name calling and adversarial mechanisms, you have both lost . No one is listening, and what resonates when the two of you are done “Getting your point across”; is a bunch of negative sounds bites or texts that you wait too long to delete. Which, only make the situation worse.   Everyone doesn’t have a MBA in Public Relations so arguments are a completely natural occurrence. We all at some point let our ego take lead to our consciousness and forget to adhere to reason. Here are a few simple steps on improving communication

Throwback Post (I was going through my old posts that weren't posted during election season and found this gem! I thought now would be a great time to post it because Auntie Maxine Waters had an answer to Trumps call to action for African American voters! Check it out! )  P.S. If you don't follow Maxine Waters on twitter you are missing out trust me. Donald Trump really wants the African American vote in the November election. He is currently pulling out all the stops, we have seen him speak at African American Universities, held press conferences in our communities, spoken to us directly, and carved out a comprehensive plan to dissuade * African Americans to leave the democratic party. A party in which African Americans have widely supported for about 50 years. He is familiar with the African Diaspora and knows that we are in urgent need of respect, reform, and empathy for the many struggles that we face both systematically and publicly. Finally, a candidate tha