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Death to Labels

By Capt SistaGurl

This post is brought to you by a very tired, career driven, wife, mom, full-time job having-  entrepreneur and future mogul.

I noticed specifically, when introductions are given in the workplace women often feel compelled to mention the same things.. For example, "I'm a mom of two, my HUSBAND and I love SIP AND PAINT, and I've been working in benefits for 12 years."

Ladies before you think I'm judging, I have been victim of this as well. The irony is, if you put a man in the same room, his answers sound more like this. "Hi my name is Jim, I like Nascar. I've been in benefits for 18 years. Happy to be here." *For this story, less say most men care a bit less about labels, and more about specific things when describing their worth.

He could have the same amount of family, similar attributes as the female example but will NOT mention it. Not because he doesn't love his family, but simply because it's an introduction at WORK an…

Black Male Masculinity: Marked Safe

Over the past several days, I have watched the fear of black men on social media increase from murmur to shouting in regards to Billy Porter’s red carpet tuxedo gown (designed by Christian Siriano) at the Oscars this past Sunday. I would like to start by saying that I have never been a black man, but I have been surrounded by them since my inception. I love you, and I am firmly aware that what I am about to say is NOT going to be received well by some of you.
Black men, much like black women come in all shapes, sexual preferences, and sizes. Your fear that your masculinity will be compromised by images of gay black men in public is a fear based notion. It is high time that you realized this. You are afraid, that everything you were taught on how to be a man and maneuver through this life will somehow be TAINTED by those who embody a lifestyle you don’t understand or choose not to.
For decades the imaging of black men in the media world wide has been slated based on the images that tho…