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Dear White Women: No One is Free until We are All Free

Dear White Women, You lost yesterday. The blow you felt to your very existence and the fiber in fabric of the place of your birth was harsh. People of color, native folks and LGBTQ folks everywhere can empathize with the way you are finally feeling. The part we can not fathom is how it took y’all so long to get here. The outrage of white women the past few weeks has been surprising to say the least. It was as if you were shocked by the unmitigated gall of white men to be white men.

Where have you been since the inception of American history? Or did you just not think they would have the causticity to do it to you? You see, no one is free until we are all free. Where was your outrage when Black children were being gunned down in the street? Where was your rage when Trans-women were being murdered for merely existing? And Native women vanishing without a trace? You lost today because you’ve been so busy enjoying your privilege it never occurred to you that something given could be taken…
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So You're Turning 35...

Hey Friends! 
Remember when we were 12-13 and we knew someone that was thirty+ and thought they were SUPER OLD? Like retirement old? That was around the time you started to make promises to yourself about the magnificent things you would accomplish before turning 30. Some of us namely me, didn't even waste our time with planning a life after 30, because by then, we would have had it all figured out.  If you have done all those things. Good for you, great for you! Go ahead and stop reading, you'll be more useful on other posts. "Buh Bye." (90's SNL reference). If you're like me and you have barely scratched the surface, stick with me. 
Let's get started. Hey 34 year old.. YOU ARE NOT OLD. You have reached an age that many of our idols and history notables did not make. (Biggie, Tupac, Aaliyah, Left Eye, Mac Miller, Selena, Jimmie Hendrix, Amy Whinehouse, Tami Terrell, Lorraine Hansberry, Bruce Lee, Chris Farley, King Tut, and JESUS). 
Obviously none of us have…

How Social Media “Likes” became lessons

By Sierra Pepin, 
Social media can be an unhealthy escape in the slow, and sometimes sad, days of post-college. In fact, as transitions can be, post-college is a quieter and difficult moment. When I scrape up peace of mind in this confusing pause, I think about what the old me can teach the new me. I remember that while social media can be a fantasy, it can also be my refuge.
Sixteen and 17-year-old me needed the safe space of the Internet. I remember laying across my queen-sized bed, in my small bedroom scrolling, scrolling, scrolling. I was in high school and in my first (and only, thank God) toxic relationship. One of my close friends had passed away. I wasn't okay. Through my Tumblr account, I found the music, the community, the blogs, that gave me escape. Through Tumblr, I found the language to recognize emotional and mental harm. My blog started as a place to fawn over One Direction and re-blog pretty pictures of Black people. However, it became my introduction to feminist lan…

When the Healing Comes: SistaGurl's Guide to Divorce Series

By Rapmusiq

The realization There I was in the middle of the Caribbean sea. I was in a one person canoe, but I wasn’t alone. Surrounded by a counsel of my ancestors the decision was made. My life had to change.  As I dunked my paddle long ways into the water as if it could measure the depth of the sea or my soul; I just knew. I could no longer continue in my marriage as it was. I was hurting, yet going through the motions everyday to salvage what I thought was the most important thing in my life. My marriage was a symbol that stood for a number of things, but namely: that I was an adult and that someone in this world (aside from my parents) wanted me.  That I was worthy of love because I had a $200 Kay jewelers ring on my finger and a piece of paper in a drawer at home. 
I had grown up in the most loving environment possible and still somehow society had convinced me that this relationship was more important to me than me.  I knew something was wrong as I lost myself more and more as the…

Tray Chaney Presents Tyler Perry with the "Dedicated Fathers" Award

Actor and Artist Tray Chaney has been on a mission to let his purpose lead his passions. Since 2012, Tray has been fostering his movement and fashion line called “Dedicated Fathers”. He uses his brand and celebrity, which I have spoken of previously , in efforts to encourage and support fathers who are doing what’s best for their families on a daily basis.

It’s been reported that African American men have the highest percentage of being the most active in their children’s lives.

Tray has been working in earnest to negate the stereotype that assumes otherwise. He understands because he is a father himself, being an everyday hero to your children is not something that comes without struggle; but should be supported as we continue to improve our communities family structure.   Starting this past Father’s Day, began formally honoring fathers by presenting them with the “Dedicated Father’s Award. His latest recipient, is not a stranger to acclaim in our community, but he has yet to receive …

Katt Williams Gang banging at Breakfast!

By Felicia Clark
So guess who is gang banging at breakfast now? On Friday, September 14th, to be exact, Emmy award winning comedian Katt Williams appeared on the Frank and Wanda in the Morning show, along with fellow comedian Red Grant to promote his upcoming Comedy Special in the ATL.
After Frank interviewed the ever so pleasant Red about his life and comedy, he turned his questions to Katt, asking him, “What makes a great special sir? Cus' no one makes them like you.” Katt responds by saying, “It speaks to quantity...I had more specials than any comedian breathing or dead...7 more than Richard Pryor, 6 more than Martin Lawrence…” Frank interjects, “Are you serious? Are you serious, Katt?” Katt is carries on, “...6 more than Chris Rock, and 5 more than Dave Chappelle.” Again, Frank is asked again, “Are you serious?” Katt simply states, “Those are just facts.” What an interesting kickoff, don’t you think? Pass the bacon, please.
From there, Katt went on to discuss how he didn’t recei…

Ready to Sign Them Papers? (Usher Voice) SistaGurl's Guide to Divorce Series

By Felicia Clark 

“Dissolution of Marriage and Marital Settlement.” I read these words to myself as I stood in line at the courthouse. It was four sheets of paper, front and back. The breakdown of my marriage. 7 years broken down into 4 sheets of paper. 


Paper like any other that can be torn, shredded, and ruined by water. It felt like my marriage was as easily ruined as the paper I was holding in my hands. "What the hell is this?" I asked as I stepped closer in line.

Seven years prior, we were in such a rush to get married. We went down to City Hall to get the marriage license. We were so proud to have obtained it. The day of the wedding, I jumped out of bed. I was tripping all over myself. I couldn't contain my excitement. 

I had on a short peach A-line dress and he wore a nice peach button down shirt and slacks. We looked very cute. And happy. As we made the walk from underground parking towards City Hall, we held on tight to each other’s hands. I glanced over at my soon …