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Film Review: Uncorked

By Rapmusiq
Uncorked is the Netflix banger we all need in these trying times. If you haven’t seen this film, stop reading, go watch it and come back to this article. Because it’s about to be spoiler central. First things, first, this film is Black AF [insert Black Power fist emoji]. It captures everyday black folks in their natural environment. Not suffering, not battling some undisclosed white villain; but simply living their lives. The realistic family dynamic is incredibly relatable.

Everyone has parents and/or parental figures with expectations of us. We all have that cousin who expects freebies but would give us the shirt of their back if we needed it. The gaze both in Memphis and in Paris is black folks viewing black folks. The references made are our own inside jokes and kitchen table talk. The cast invites us in with its clear star power: the national treasure Niecy Nash, Courtney B. Vance aka the luckiest man on the planet (google his wife) and newcomer Mamoudou Athie, who is…

Does your ego run your relationship?

By Capt SistaGurl, Laura Miller
For eons, the ego has remained undefeated. It’s the thing that drives once reasonable people into insecurity, starts wars, it’s the tiny cricket on our shoulder that tells us how much “they got us fucked up”, and most importantly it can be the lead actor in the screenplay of our relationships. I have been known to pump my chest out in arrogance, so I took some time to draft a few examples on how our ego plays a role in our dating, marriage, and relationship lives. The social media related ego. This one is ranked number one because it’s probably the most common. You take yourself onto the page of their current or former paramour and compare yourself to them. “She’s not cuter than me, I’m skinnier than her, why was he even with her?”, “She left me for this dude, he’s lame.”  Friends, SistaGurls, my people, here’s the thing. Whether the new person or ex is a supermodel, it doesn’t matter. Why? They chose you, or the relationship is over, please refrain from …

Girl's Love Hip-Hop: Featuring God's Prophet

By Felicia Clark
Jordan My’ron Tennyson, aka. God's Prophet speaks nothing but the truth. He exhibits the skill, dedication, knowledge and raw talent to back up his name. Prior to rap, the Lousiville, KY native played collegiate football at the University of Kentucky as well as the University of Louisville. While at the University of Kentucky, he received news that his grandmother had fallen ill and he transferred to the University of Louisville to aid in her caregiving.
Unfortunately, she did not survive. Combine the loss of his grandmother and a season-canceling football injury, Prophet became depressed. In his search for answers, he heard a divine voice that repeatedly told him to write. After multiple attempts to ignore the call to action, he finally gave in. He picked up a pad and a pen and poured his heart and soul onto the paper. What he saw on the notepad, were the words of a lyrist.

You are not a typical artist. How would you define your personal brand and sound?

As a bra…

Surviving Distractions: How to identify them and how to stop them

By Felicia Clark 
I sit down to do a write-up with my deadline for completion in two days. After showering, I change into my pajama bottoms and an oversized shirt. I grab a glass of wine, chips, and my laptop. My blanket and pillow are on the sofa. My rain sounds are going. I decided that everything's in place. I plop onto my sofa and proceed to write. All of sudden, PANDEMONIUM. “Ma! Can you please bring me a towel?! I forgot to grab one!” One of my sons yelled from the bathroom.
After grabbing a towel and handing it to an awaiting hand sticking out the slit of the bathroom door, I sat back down upon the sofa and proceeded to write. 
Ring! Ring! Unh unh, not answering. The phone stops ringing. Ring! Ring! Same number. Not answering. Then it rings AGAIN! Same number, belonging to my bestie. She’s called 3 times in a row. She never does that. Something must be wrong. I decided to call her back and try to make it short; no more than 10 minutes, tops

Thirty minutes later, she’s just get…

GUEST FEATURE: Self-reflection is Necessary for Growth

By Lisa Jenkins
When I started my new life in June 2013, I had to get to know a person I never really knew – me. For the first half of my life, I hid my true self from the world. I decided that I had to change and was determined to not accept no as an option. In my 45 years, I have overcome a dysfunctional relationship with my mother, an abusive 21-year relationship with my daughter’s father, and feelings of shame for allowing Endometriosis to derail my educational and career pursuits. 
Before realizing my new chosen path as a mental health counselor, I self-published three books that are geared toward helping others avoid or get out of similar situations. Those experiences drive my advocacy efforts to promote the importance of doing what is necessary to live a fulfilling and purposeful life. I have been extremely active and passionate about spreading the word on the importance of self-love, ending domestic violence, and voicing the need for mental wellness across the world but especial…

GIVE LESS OF A F#%K IN 2020

A very good friend of mine gave me some advice once. He said, "Laura, you know you get stressed over all these people and their problems. It's too much weight. GIVE LESS OF A F#$K. " At the time, I thought he was being extremely dismissive. Like he must not have heard what I was trying to say. 

I had another conversation with a family member about a year later,  we were faced with an extremely dramatic family situation. It was then that my family member told me, " Laura, you will do nothing, you have too much to lose, focus on YOUR life. Seriously do nothing." 

SistaGurls, when I tell you, I could never be a "do nothing" person, please believe me. However, what he meant, was different from telling me to lose drive and ambition, it was more like STOP TRYING TO FIX EVERYTHING. Even the things that aren't your problem. Especially the things that aren't your problem! 

I am very certain that a lot of you are like me, silent superheroes' fighting f…

SG's 2019 Holiday Gift Guide - Part 1!

By Capt SistaGurl and SG Team 
Happy Holidays SG!

Around this time of year. Magazines and bloggers around the globe clamor to feature their biggest and brightest Holiday Gift guides with much fanfare. However, larger markets rarely feature small businesses ran and/or operated by women, specifically women of color. Here at the SistaGurl, we wanted to make sure that when we decided to do a gift guide, it was going to be all about our femme-tastic melanin-laden sistas.

It's very important to ensure that small businesses get the exposure that they deserve and we are loving these queens. (We have a few kings in here too.) 
Skincare

Skincare becomes increasingly more important as we age. Women of color have the luxury of having higher amounts of melanin, which gives us more protection from the sun and keeps our skin tighter and younger longer.  However, effects on the skin in the colder months can be unforgiving to even the deepest skin tones.
Captain SistaGurl received few all-natural produ…