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GIVE LESS OF A F#%K IN 2020

A very good friend of mine gave me some advice once. He said, "Laura, you know you get stressed over all these people and their problems. It's too much weight. GIVE LESS OF A F#$K. " At the time, I thought he was being extremely dismissive. Like he must not have heard what I was trying to say. 

I had another conversation with a family member about a year later,  we were faced with an extremely dramatic family situation. It was then that my family member told me, " Laura, you will do nothing, you have too much to lose, focus on YOUR life. Seriously, do nothing." 

SistaGurls, when I tell you, I could never be a "do nothing" person, please believe me. However, what he meant, was different from telling me to lose drive and ambition, it was more like STOP TRYING TO FIX EVERYTHING. Even the things that aren't your problem. Especially the things that aren't your problem! 

I am very certain that a lot of you are like me, silent superheroes' fighting …

SG's 2019 Holiday Gift Guide - Part 1!

By Capt SistaGurl and SG Team 
Happy Holidays SG!

Around this time of year. Magazines and bloggers around the globe clamor to feature their biggest and brightest Holiday Gift guides with much fanfare. However, larger markets rarely feature small businesses ran and/or operated by women, specifically women of color. Here at the SistaGurl, we wanted to make sure that when we decided to do a gift guide, it was going to be all about our femme-tastic melanin-laden sistas.

It's very important to ensure that small businesses get the exposure that they deserve and we are loving these queens. (We have a few kings in here too.) 
Skincare

Skincare becomes increasingly more important as we age. Women of color have the luxury of having higher amounts of melanin, which gives us more protection from the sun and keeps our skin tighter and younger longer.  However, effects on the skin in the colder months can be unforgiving to even the deepest skin tones.
Captain SistaGurl received few all-natural produ…

CLASSIC INTERVIEW: World AIDS Day 2018!

On Friday, Dec. 7, 2018, I attended the World AIDS Day Chicago event sponsored by AIDS Healthcare Foundation at Lacuna Lofts on the South Side of Chicago.

The AHF is currently the largest provider of HIV/AIDS medical care in the U.S.  Per their website. AHF funds its mission to rid the world of AIDS through a network of pharmacies, thrift stores, healthcare contracts, and other strategic partnerships. Since the start of their organization in 1987, they have served and provided care for millions of people worldwide affected by the virus.

The event was hosted by former "The Voice" contestant Sandy Redd, and DJ'd by music mogul-producer-pioneer Jermaine Dupri. (Yes, JD!) I covered the red carpet and spoke to them and other artists about the event and the organization.

We discussed the impact that HIV/AIDS has had on Americans and the importance of philanthropy, advocacy and more.

Check it out below!



Sandy Redd
Can you share what brought you to host World AIDS Day Chicago? 

T…

The Unknown: Dealing with Myasthenia Gravis

By Felicia Clark

It’s 6:50 AM
I am scheduled to work at 7. My car is neatly parked in a spot. I even backed up to showcase my skills. The walk from the car to the door of the building frightens me. I mean, what if I fall? You may ask me, “Why would you?” Or simply tell me to “Get back up.” But what if I told you that it’s not that simple. What if I told you that if I fall, I may not be able to get back up? What happens is my body becomes almost catatonic. Not void of feelings, but, at times, unable to functionally complete simple tasks like getting back up. Or to not fall in the first place.

Every day I run the risk of falling and being stuck wherever I have landed. Until my body allows me the opportunity to get up, or someone is kind enough to help a sista out without laughing. I have fallen and hit my face numerous times, so many times that I have lost count. I have the scars to prove it. I also have a lifetime of memories of bystanders' laughter to go along with it.

Shit. 6:52 A…

Fellas Pregame Your Online Dating Profile: Advice from your future bae

By Rapmusiq
So I’ve been in these internet dating streets for a few years now and I thought I’d do my future Boo a solid and give him the tips on how to snag a certified Queen ;). There’s no way around it, online dating is super weird. Most people are not even quite sure where to start. Shopping for humans isn’t something most people are used to; so we count on our instincts to make a snap decision when swiping right. Here are a few tips for the straight guys out there from a woman’s perspective.
I’ve seen these don’ts on so many profiles and confirmed them as turn-offs in mutual conversations with diverse groups of women. A few subtle changes can be the difference between you ending up in the inbox of the woman you would like to get to know better. Once you’re there let your personality, style, and charm to take it away!
Do's


Post great Pics I have noticed that most straight guys take horrible pics. They’re blurry, half your face is it cut off, you’re in a car with the seat belt stra…

RECIPE FOR REJECTION

As I get older, I realize the recipe for success comes from many things. The one thing that is discussed but often overlooked is how successful people react to REJECTION.. 
Just as I type this at 11AM CST, I myself have been rejected or heard the word "No", at least six times for about 3 different things. To be clear, my day started at about 8AM.

Let's be honest, successful people didn't become that way because they had every door they knocked on opened at first encounter. They became that way because regardless to how incredibly painful the rejection was, how bad they wanted:
That role That account That sponsor That grant That interview That job That opportunity....They didn't give up!!
They did not completely dive into the feeling of being slighted. They took that disappointment to the chin and kept going. Believe me, there are times when I just want to give up, and pursue less. Stay safely in the bubble where my odds are more favorable, but would I get better? Would …