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The Sista Gurl welcomes our newest writer Aliyah Young, and she is coming to encourage young women who have found their spirituality, but have been subjected to HATERS. Show her some love below. XOXO Capt SistaGurl

Anytime young christians mention being spiritually connected and consistently attending church, the commentary sounds something like, “They don’t do nothing but scam y’all for y’all money” or "You know JESUS ain't real right?". People tend to write God off because of worldly error. They disrespect our Lord and Savior while simultaneously disregarding a loved one's personal choice. One cannot blame people for being upset or feeling disdain for worldly corruption, but that doesn’t directly correlate to the Spirit of the Lord.

Making a choice to live for God shouldn’t be met with as much friction as it’s met with for young women of color like myself. It is not crazy, it is not strange, and we shouldn’t feel awkward speaking about the peace God has brought us. We shouldn’t have to judge, gossip, smoke, drink or indulge in premarital sex to make any of our peers or “friends” feel comfortable. We also shouldn’t have to continue to do those things even if we have done them before.

Everyone’s spiritual journey is different. We don’t all have to give up the same things for our walk with God. We don’t all have to walk with God simultaneously. Boundaries should be respected. There shouldn’t be an issue with giving up past habits when we feel it’s no longer contributing to our growth. So why do we hear it so often? Is it because we are young? Is it because as young women of color we are sexualized by society? Can’t we stand firm on our beliefs without being looked at sideways in our place of work? Home? Social settings? Dating life? And even sometimes in the church.

Adversity is very common when the transition progresses. On the contrary, out of the many naysayers you will run into some people who understand. Not only do they understand, but they are respectfully taking their own journey right alongside you. Sisterhoods are formed. They are built on the foundation of the love of God and His plan! We pray together, worship together, openly discuss our weakness, allow each other to be human without harsh judgement, celebrate the small victories, and most importantly we keep one another encouraged.

You will lose “friends”, family, and even sometimes your significant other. Sometimes we don’t understand the reasons why. We lean on the support from one another. We call on God to bestow his understanding within us. All of the spiritual warfare gets easier when you realize you are not failing alone. Sisters in Christ becomes sisters in life. They are there to pick you up and remind you that God already knew you wouldn’t be perfect. They encourage you to stay on the journey while others are glad you failed. Even if you never do “those Jesus things” respect the boundaries of any man/woman who does.

About the writer: Aliyah Young is a 22 year old entrepreneur who has overcome countless obstacles and statistics. Born and raised in the city of Chicago, Aliyah is finding her purpose on her journey through life. She is an aspiring author, and a mentor to many. Her dream is to become a national bestselling author and spokesperson for other young women of color who have faced similar adversities in life. It is these adversities that have shaped the message she carries in her spirit today. A lover of people, and a nurturer by nature she inspires anyone she meets. Through her company Made by Mocha she helps other young women enhance and appreciate their beauty both internally and externally.

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  1. UnknownFebruary 11, 2019 at 12:50 PM

    Great job. It is inspiring to see Young people serve God. A Young woman encouraging other young women to walk in the light is a blessing.

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