Girls Vs. Girls: Sisterhood Struggles Part 1

Girls Vs. Girls: I love this photo. At first glance it shows the essence of sisterhood. A group of girls having fun with their day, enjoying each other carefree. As I look at it more, I can't help but notice that a few of the girls are smiling, but don't really seem happy. It could be because of their apprehension toward the photographer, or other shots showed them much happier, but in my mind, that's not the case.

The other thing that haunts me is the thought that maybe there were more girls that weren't cool enough to be in this photo. The ostracized bunch that weren't chosen to be friends with the young princesses. The most absurd part is, even when girls do clique up, there's still division within the clique!

Studies show that this behavior among girls starts as early as toddler-hood. We pattern ourselves after one another to be more "accepted". There's something about the feeling of acceptance that anchors us into conformity. I'm sure if we look back far enough, we can remember our first crew. Is everyone still cool now? Probably not. Odds are someone came between one of you. Someone like.. * we will get back to this part though.. on another series.. for now, let's continue.

Peer acceptance is very critical for a young girl's development, so its my belief that somewhere around junior high, we start to socialize for survival. We forget the core needs to maintain a sisterhood and focus more on aesthetic principals that bind us. To survive some of us become mean girls. Which translates to mean women, which translates to mean coworkers, mean bosses/supervisors, mean mothers to our daughters, and bitches. None of this was our intention. But as my mom says, the road to hell is PAVED with good intentions.

Part 2 coming soon! Tell us what you think. Am I off the mark? Are there more things to consider? Let me know! Xoxox

Comments

Ladies, Make Him Act Right! (From a man's perspective)

So ladies, we have a tendency to get advice from women about MEN far more than we should. So I have a special treat today. We're going to get some advice on how to entice, encourage, and exalt a man from you guested it.. A MAN. I picked one, who speaks with the sole purpose to educate. So some of his language may be a bit harder than you're used to but.. you will not be disappointed. Capt SistaGurl Out! Introducing Tikko Brohey Ladies do you feel like “dudes ain’t shit” or “dudes don’t act right?” Have you ever thought about the things you do that contribute to that? The answer is probably not. Now granted there are dudes out there who just ain’t shit, and that’s just what it is. Majority of men are good men. But his partner can often determine just how good he'll actually be. Every woman deserves to be treated like a queen, as every man deserves to be treated like a king. The disconnect comes from when there’s an argument all the King and Queen shit is out the

Why the Death of DMX Hurts

By Capt SistaGurl Laura Miller DMX has always been a friend to the youth, specifically young black men growing up in the age of Hip Hop who needed someone to help explain the daily pain that they were experiencing. They had X in his edgy brilliance. He didn't walk around pretending to be someone he wasn't. He was someone who we’ve watched soar to the highest of heights and fall just as fast and hard. Before DMX I don't think there was any rapper who had explained the pains of feeling abandoned better. He resonated with a generation of black males who were born in the '80s, '90s , and 00's UNLOVED. Our community often grazes over young black men in this way. Supported by no one but themselves. He touched them, and he also touched the women and men who understood this type of pain. His lyrics were true to who he was and who he would always be. A real ass dude trying to figure it out. Trying to understand the pressures of his celebrity. Navigating through The agon

The Church is Failing: The Young Black Male

This is a taboo subject. That I’ve thought about quite a bit but never had the courage to really vocalize. Courage and fear are funny things because one of them is just as strong as the other, it’s just a question of which one you choose to live in. So today, I choose to live within a courageous light. Why, being a black woman, and an active christian would I have a fear vocalizing my opinion on how black men have been failed by the church? Messages are often misconstrued based on the perception of the reader. Additionally, it’s best practice to NOT add any fire to the flame of those that question institutionalized religion. However, in this case, I think I’d like to get this out with the hopes that some black man, within a particular age, will utilize this post as a reason to do better in reaching young black men. There was a time when the core of the civil rights movement was centered around black men and women within religious faiths. They actively worked together,

The SistaGurl Blog

Search This Blog