Girls Vs. Girls: Sisterhood Struggles Part 1

Girls Vs. Girls: I love this photo. At first glance it shows the essence of sisterhood. A group of girls having fun with their day, enjoying each other carefree. As I look at it more, I can't help but notice that a few of the girls are smiling, but don't really seem happy. It could be because of their apprehension toward the photographer, or other shots showed them much happier, but in my mind, that's not the case.

The other thing that haunts me is the thought that maybe there were more girls that weren't cool enough to be in this photo. The ostracized bunch that weren't chosen to be friends with the young princesses. The most absurd part is, even when girls do clique up, there's still division within the clique!

Studies show that this behavior among girls starts as early as toddler-hood. We pattern ourselves after one another to be more "accepted". There's something about the feeling of acceptance that anchors us into conformity. I'm sure if we look back far enough, we can remember our first crew. Is everyone still cool now? Probably not. Odds are someone came between one of you. Someone like.. * we will get back to this part though.. on another series.. for now, let's continue.

Peer acceptance is very critical for a young girl's development, so its my belief that somewhere around junior high, we start to socialize for survival. We forget the core needs to maintain a sisterhood and focus more on aesthetic principals that bind us. To survive some of us become mean girls. Which translates to mean women, which translates to mean coworkers, mean bosses/supervisors, mean mothers to our daughters, and bitches. None of this was our intention. But as my mom says, the road to hell is PAVED with good intentions.

Part 2 coming soon! Tell us what you think. Am I off the mark? Are there more things to consider? Let me know! Xoxox

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