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Fake Love, Real Hate: Clapback or Not?

Yesterday I found out that someone I was supposedly friends with, hung out together, shared personal stories, ate together and such.. had been saying some awful UNTRUE things about myself and my family. I have no clue as to why.. We never had any disagreements, she just felt compelled to lift herself up while tearing me down.

This happens to women every day all day, and I am sure you all can relate to how disappointing it is, to hear when someone is trying to drag your name in the dirt. My first instinct was to call her, blaring obscenities and let her have it. I talked myself out of that one, not because I am cowardly, but because the energy I would be giving away, I could never get back.. i would be allowing her to have a less fabricated story in which she would probably broadcast herself as the victim.. (And that would really piss me off!)

My second thought was a social media rant...you know one of those where I @ Her name and smear her name through the mud publically with all the personal things I did know about her and her life. Not a very nice move and in the end I would just end up looking very #petty in a public forum and would probably tarnish my public image. I could hear it now, “That is not light you’re giving out Ms. Laura.” “, What happened to Ms. Happy go lucky?” (Let’s face.. people are rude, shady, and sarcastic as ever). So..I did not do that one. I do care about the examples I set, and in order to uplift others it is important to be the example you want to see in others. I have posted multiple articles about the importance of sisterhood, self-love and self-awareness. Do not misunderstand me here. This was not an easy decision. Humans have natural emotions and anger is definitely one that I have grown quite accustomed to. So how much of a hypocrite would I be to flip out on a woman, just because of a little slander. That wasn’t even true. Chile please lol.

Instead, I choose action by inaction. Why? A few reasons, her attempts to slander me are causing me no personal strife whatsoever, I have not spoken to her in months (so she clearly doesn’t impact me.) And frankly she is not worth my time.

SistaGurls, sometimes the best thing about growth is knowing that you are better than you were. There was a time when I would defend my name from slander , even if it meant I had to drag a girl from pillar to post. (Super rare.. but yall understand). But my name is still mine, my focus is still unchanged, I am still me right? I remember my grandmother would always say, if someone is talking about you, you must be doing something right. She would also say, please talk about me, they talked about JESUS, so I am in good company.

So, if homegirl is reading this… hey girl hey! Thanks for keeping me relevant. Take care of yourself girl!

#CaptSistaGurlOut

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