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The Sunday Night Curse


By Capt Sista Gurl - Laura Miller

Starting around Thursday of every week, I make plans for myself and my clients over the weekend. Their quest is typically lighter than mine but it’s geared towards something that can make their Monday or upcoming week easier. 

My plan for myself is typically a laundry list of things to do. Things like to clean everything in the house, finish your book, broker a peace treaty, and REST. Fun fact. I have yet to accomplish all the weekend goals that I set for myself so like clockwork every single Sunday night I feel like I’ve failed. Doesn’t matter how much I did do, or if my daughter and I’s dance party was the best yet. I still feel like a complete failure. 


What’s ironic about this is, I know better. When my clients' text and say, they weren’t able to get everything done because they were exhausted, I reassure them. What’s even more perplexing is, when I worked in corporate America it was a different type of Sunday evening darkness. More like “when am I going to be able to stop working for other people? Another Monday in that place!? “ 


Have you been there? So if traveled to the mountain top of sorts I work for myself and still find a way to make myself feel like a C student every weekend? What is my problem? If I had to guess, my core issue is, I never give myself an adequate assignment. Further, I never forecast my fatigue. I expect myself to be a superhero 24/7 and then have the nerve to be unkind to myself when my body can’t commit to it. 


This is not wise. And I’m sharing this story with you because some of you are just like me strong enough and chosen to yield the Thor hammer, but tired enough to just want to binge-watch classic Scandal episodes on Saturdays. 


Well, guess what. You should carve out time to rest and you should not beat yourself up about it when you do. This world has gifted us with technology at our fingertips and can at times add to our fatigue. Fighting the good fight of excellence doesn't always mean that you have to do everything all the time. So I’ve gathered a few suggestions for you as well as myself to help navigate through the dark Sunday feeling of inadequacy. 


  1. Set small goals for your weekend. (Like one or two..) 
  2. Binge-watch whatever you want. 
  3. Affirm yourself for whatever you were able to accomplish, even if it was just taking a shower! 
  4. Prepare your mind for whatever you have to do for the following week instead of vilifying yourself for what you didn’t get done. 
  5. Meditate. 
  6. Catch up with friends/family. 
  7. Celebrate a productive week on the weekend with your favorite thing. 
  8. Express gratitude for what you have, and what you are building. 
  9. Repeat. 


So we have a plan ladies and gentlemen. Tell me if you feel like these goals work better than your former weekend to-do list. 

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