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RECIPE FOR REJECTION

As I get older, I realize the recipe for success comes from many things. The one thing that is discussed but often overlooked is how successful people react to REJECTION.. 

Just as I type this at 11AM CST, I myself have been rejected or heard the word "No", at least six times for about 3 different things. To be clear, my day started at about 8AM.

Let's be honest, successful people didn't become that way because they had every door they knocked on opened at first encounter. They became that way because regardless to how incredibly painful the rejection was, how bad they wanted:

That role
That account
That sponsor
That grant
That interview
That job
That opportunity....They didn't give up!!

They did not completely dive into the feeling of being slighted. They took that disappointment to the chin and kept going. Believe me, there are times when I just want to give up, and pursue less. Stay safely in the bubble where my odds are more favorable, but would I get better? Would I improve? 

Quite frankly some of the "No's" I received were warranted. 

I didn't do my best on:

That article
That project
That email DID have grammatical errors
I did NOT listen effectively
I didn't pitch that client well 
That pitch was terrible
That interview was too long
I DID forget to sign that permission slip!!

Not for nothing every yes, prepared me for each disappointment and the reciprocal is also true.

Being deserving of an opportunity and being granted the same opportunity is not always mutually exclusive. 

So to wrap, stay the course and study rejection to improve. Feedback is useful regardless of if it is constructive or combative. It is important to see the full picture and work within that to accomplish your goals. For me, every "No" is another opportunity to work to the YES side of things. 

I am sharing this thought process with you in the hopes that maybe it can help. One of my favorite quotes from Disney is "Keep moving forward. (Meet the Robinson's). So friends, let's do that!! Have a splendid day!! 

CAPT SISTAGURL OUT!!

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