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Would the Younger You Like you?


Have you ever sat down in adult hood and had a conversation with the childlike version of yourself? I am nearly certain that when you do, you will notice that the expectations the 7 year old version of yourself had, and the reality that you live in now.. does not REMOTELY sync.

Albert Einstein said, "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one". As we get older our ability to dream is deffered by the apex of our reality.

We see things a lot differently at 35, then we did at 25, then we did at 19, then we did at 12. Why is that? I believe the older we become, the more aware of "reality" we become. So when time begins to pass us, and things continue not to work in our favor, we start to do things to heighten our fear, and suppress our real desires. I must also mention that fear as an adult is masked in a couple of different things. STABILITY. SECURITY. SETTLING. COMFORTABLE. LAZINESS.

Those are fear based tactics. Once you're of a certain age, you can't take risks and be considered intelligent. You are labeled reckless. As an adult, you CARE ABOUT LABELS. When you intentionally went to school wearing tie dyed shirts and backwards clothing you didn't care WHO SAID ANYTHING ABOUT IT. You wanted to wear it, so you did. The younger you painted outside the lines on purpose. That's the person who we all need to reacquaint ourselves with. That person had no choice but to be happy because they essentially lived for it. How did we loose that? What happened to us?


My theory is that at one point, we started to pay more attention to the outside perceptions of what our happiness should look like. Instead of what our souls really wanted. You should graduate high school and go directly to college. You should find love somewhere between 24-28, you should have babies between 28-34.  If you are at all off course, a piece of panic starts to sink in. I am here to inform you that it is not in your head. It's really there. Your families and friends have implanted their structured based fears upon you! Now you ARE freaking out. Please stop. Do not pass go (However, please take that $200 dollars.)

This world is a crazy place. This becomes more and more evident as the days progress. We never know when we are going to leave this earth. So how about we start LIVING FOR OURSELVES. Speak what you really want into existence and execute that. Have expectations. Say no to normalcy and complacency! Expect from yourself what the younger you would have wanted. And make them proud. In the end, you deserve unlimited happiness.

SistaGurl Out!

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  1. You hit the nail on the head with this one. Sometimes we spend so much time focused on what we should be doing or should have that we don't listen to what WE really want. I need this reminder. Thanks!

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