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Surviving Distractions: How to identify them and how to stop them

By Felicia Clark 
I sit down to do a write-up with my deadline for completion in two days. After showering, I change into my pajama bottoms and an oversized shirt. I grab a glass of wine, chips, and my laptop. My blanket and pillow are on the sofa. My rain sounds are going. I decided that everything's in place. I plop onto my sofa and proceed to write. All of sudden, PANDEMONIUM. “Ma! Can you please bring me a towel?! I forgot to grab one!” One of my sons yelled from the bathroom.
After grabbing a towel and handing it to an awaiting hand sticking out the slit of the bathroom door, I sat back down upon the sofa and proceeded to write. 
Ring! Ring! Unh unh, not answering. The phone stops ringing. Ring! Ring! Same number. Not answering. Then it rings AGAIN! Same number, belonging to my bestie. She’s called 3 times in a row. She never does that. Something must be wrong. I decided to call her back and try to make it short; no more than 10 minutes, tops

Thirty minutes later, she’s just get…

The Laziness of saying "I Love You"

By Rapmusiq

I'm in a relatively new relationship post divorce. I was hesitant to pursue a new relationship after losing myself in my last one. I was EXTREMELY guarded after my previous experiences. 

My partner and I have yet to introduce regular 'I love yous' into our the romantic conversations. And because of this I have noticed a shift in our affectionate language. The lack of "I love yous" causes us to be far more descriptive and specific about the aspects of our character, personality and gestures that we genuinely enjoy about each other. 

We say things like 'you have a beautiful spirit', 'you can do it', 'I really appreciate that you cooked for me'. We are both grown and have been through multiple serious long term relationships, which I believe causes us to have a strong reverence for the phrase. 

I say all that to say, no relationship is perfect (including and especially ours). However, I feel that there is a form of laziness embedded in the 'I love you' phrase. It can mean a million different things to a million different people. For some folks it's merely a closing to a phone call. 'Ok, bye, Love you.' For others its the ultimate expression of vulnerability. 

I think that in addition to saying this phrase, we should become more thoughtful about the ways we describe to others the place they hold in our lives. We should be more diligent about sharing our appreciations for who they are, who they are not, their skills, talents and abilities. I hope as people we can be more intentional with our words and gestures. We could all use more Love!

Xoxo-Rapmusiq

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