Skip to main content

2023 Plan Less Live More


By Capt SistaGurl, 


Now, before you tell me how hard you worked hard on your vision boards hear me out. Now of course I think it’s important to envision and implicate goals for the year, however lately I’ve been struggling with the idea of our life’s outline. 


When writing a book, the easiest way in my opinion to complete the work is to organize each idea by chapter. So if you get stuck in one place, you can review your outline and say, "Well, I’m unsure about chapter five right now, but ideas are running more fluidly for Chapter 8." You can do this because you’ve already written a small synopsis of these chapters so you know what’s going to happen. 


In my mind, there are a few differences between creating a novel, and our everyday life, but not very many. There are developmental phases, parts that we are really excited about, and there are instances in which we just get stuck. Much like life. But in real-life experience, we tend to lament the chapter we are stuck and allowing us not to move forward with the parts we know. 


For example, if you are reading this right now, and are BROKE, moving towards the being a better friend chapter can seem impossible. When In reality two things can occur at the same time. You can not be where you are financially, and you can also show up for the people who need you. Why? Because in life we are always more than one thing. 


Our personal outline for our life can wear us down, especially when you add your day-to-day pressures and your internal reactions to the things you view on social media, the news, and other environmental distractions. 


So as we step forward to another year, I want us to encourage the duality of thought, you can struggle and still love, you can feel stuck and still keep coming, you can feel sadness and seek help, all these things can happen at once. 


All in all,  I want us to think about our outline and personal expectations of ourselves with fresh eyes. I want us to be more vulnerable with our efforts to treat ourselves better. If the life path you’ve planned for yourself, or the one that was planned for you by other people is presenting trouble for how you see yourself, THROW IT AWAY. 


Comments

  1. virginiaolive5@gmail.comJanuary 29, 2023 at 2:04 PM

    Who knew it was so simple! I appreciate the truth in what you’re saying. Really sometimes we get struck in ‘chapter 5’ and stay there to long. Have a great new year and keep moving through life intentionally, life is a journey. So pack lite!

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

April Preyar: Unveiling Trials & Triumph Board Game -SG Holiday Gift Guide Feature

Legal Empowerment and Cool Vibes Collide in the Perfect Holiday Gift Hey SistaGurls, Laura Miller here, aka Capt SistaGurl, and I am beyond excited to introduce you to a game-changer in legal education and empowerment. As we dive into the SG Holiday Gift Guide, let's shine a spotlight on April Preyar, the legal luminary behind th revolutionary Trials & Triumph Board Game. Trials & Triumph: A Legal Luminary's Vision: Crafted by the brilliant mind of April Preyar, a 21-year-old criminal defense attorney, Trials & Triumph is more than a game; it's a tool for navigating police encounters and fostering critical thinking, especially in our teens. As Capt SistaGurl, I'm all about empowerment, and this board game is a game-changer in that department. Empowering Critical Thinking in Teens: One of the standout features of Trials & Triumph is its ability to awaken critical thinking in our teens. In a world full of challenges and peer pressures, this game equips the...

The Mary Jane Syndrome

The Mary Jane Syndrome By Kesia King Being labeled a "strong black woman" used to be a badge of honor.  A "strong black woman" takes on every battle life throws her way, while smiling with all thirty-two teeth, wearing 6 inch heels, a brief case on her shoulder, a baby bottle in her right hand a spatula in her left while on the phone listening to someone else's problems, when deep down she knows that she's actually the one that needs to be laying on somebody's couch, airing it all out! It's funny because a couple weeks ago when I threw this particular outfit on, I was dealing with some internal struggles myself.  Now, add in my homemade, bone straight wig, red shoes and matching red clutch, when I looked in the mirror I immediately felt like Mary Jane Paul, from Being Mary Jane!  I can relate to Mary Jane, because on the outside, she always looks like she has it together. If you've watched the show on BET, you know when she walks into a roo...

Ladies, Make Him Act Right! (From a man's perspective)

So ladies, we have a tendency to get advice from women about MEN far more than we should. So I have a special treat today. We're going to get some advice on how to entice, encourage, and exalt a man from you guested it.. A MAN. I picked one, who speaks with the sole purpose to educate. So some of his language may be a bit harder than you're used to but.. you will not be disappointed. Capt SistaGurl Out!  Introducing Tikko Brohey  Ladies do you feel like “dudes ain’t shit” or “dudes don’t act right?” Have you ever thought about the things you do that contribute to that? The answer is probably not.  Now granted there are dudes out there who just ain’t shit, and that’s just what it is. Majority of men are good men. But his partner can often determine just how good he'll actually be. Every woman deserves to be treated like a queen, as every man deserves to be treated like a king. The disconnect comes from when there’s an argument all the King and Queen shit is out t...